Ep 90 - Is JOMO The Secret Sauce To Your Weight Loss?

Faye Casement Author

May 05, 2024 |

Hello Hello Hello and welcome to Episode Number 90! Is JOMO The Secret Sauce For 'Weight Loss'?

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First things first do you know what JOMO is? This was only a term I had heard of in the last year but it makes soooo much sense and it really fits with weight loss with love and my message which is about finding joy in the process.

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JOMO is the Joy of Missing Out.

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Coming up I tell you all about what JOMO is, how it can help you in life and weight loss, why it may just be the secret sauce for weight loss and how you can rev up your JOMO levels daily so stay tuned.

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As usual, leave your comments and leave a #gems followed by what your takeaway points are in the Wellness 4 Women Group. Got a question drop in anywhere you can leave a comment or reach out on socials. Want to take this deeper and join a community of others working on their relationship with food hit up the description box.

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So without further ado let's jump in and start putting together those pieces of life & weight loss.

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JOMO not FOMO

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When working on our relationship with food a lot of thoughts and feelings come up. Like a lot, a lot. We can have so many thoughts about what to eat, when, how, who with it can feel really draining. It doesn't have to feel that way but that is perhaps a tail for another day and something we can work on in the membership

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A common experience is that of FOMO - Fear Of Missing Out. When it comes to 'weight loss', and especially if you have ever dieted FOMO is likely to be something you will know all too well. As a dieter, you will have felt sadness and restriction when missing out on certain foods or social events because of your 'diet'. You may have felt deprived when reducing down portions. You may have felt the pangs of jealousy when you have looked on at a friend or relative who seems to be able to eat anything without gaining a bean. The thoughts and feelings can feel like torture and the FOMO can be most definitely real!!!!

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FOMO is a powerful force that can lead to unhealthy behaviours and negative emotions. It could make you feel isolated, anxious, and insecure about your choices and it can lead to sabotage as it comes from scarcity and lack which will then lead to urges as we want to get away from the icky feelings.

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However, there is an alternative mindset we can adopt. The potential antidote to FOMO is JOMO, the Joy Of Missing Out.

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I have to say this is not something I was actively ever taught by any diet or mentor I followed unless it went completely over my head. My recollections of diets were that we had to have willpower, to knuckle down and do hard things. To suck it up and just stick to the diet.

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The mentor who got me into my current path was ace, she introduced me to thought work, and treating ourselves with love and kindness but also that we can just do the hard things and to just get it done.

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Now the truth is we can do hard things. We can set about doing whatever we put our minds to if we so wish. I would be lying if I said you will never have to do a hard thing. This is life and shit happens but our beliefs and thoughts create our reality therefore we also can work on changing the hard thing whatever it may be into something easier and more joyful if we wish and that is something I naturally found I did on my journey and what I have built into the Triple-A-Way™️ Method.

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Joy, love and kindness are far more powerful motivators in the end and more sustainable than fear, deprivation, shoulds, musts and anything that comes from scarcity. You only have to feel into these feelings to know which ones you would rather have more of.

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I would choose joy every time.

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By starting to work on my beliefs, thoughts and feelings I was able to find more joy in the process. I am not talking all the time, sunshine daisies and unicorn style as that is just unrealistic but I was able to tip the balance. I went from being sad, miserable, restricted, deprived and feeling lacking to a place of more peace, joy, empowerment, intention and acceptance I was, even though I didn't know it, channelling JOMO.

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JOMO is a mindset shift. It is about taking us from feeling restricted and hard done by, towards finding more joy and satisfaction in the present moment.

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So rather than giving in to FOMO, seek to focus on what makes you feel good both physically and emotionally. Look for ways in which you can identify the joy and benefits of missing out rather than focusing on the negatives.

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So what would that look like in practice.

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Well let' say you are going out with friends.

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You decide to be 'Des' and drive the party bus rather than be one of the drinkers. FOMO thinking would be 'I can't drink', 'I won't have any fun' and 'This sucks'. JOMO thinking it is about what you can add and gain, so 'This is great I will have a clearer head in the morning', 'This may benefit my weight loss efforts this week; 'I get to spend time with my friends and be totally present'.

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Or maybe it is food-related. FOMO thinking is 'Urgh going out sucks when you are working on weight loss'; 'urgh I can't have what I want to eat', 'I won't be able to enjoy myself'. Whereas JOMO would be 'Isn't it great that I get to say yes to my weight loss this week and choose a nice crunchy tasty salad' or if you are working on food freedom maybe you chose the burger but half the fries and celebrate the fact you did this and you got to eat out, and you have a great relationship with food.

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So I want to help you to encourage your JOMO to encourage you look at how you can add to and enhance your life rather than taking anything away and use the power of your thoughts to do it.

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There are always two sides to a coin you just need to turn it over and look at the opposite position.

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Perhaps a coin is not the best example as I always say there are three viewpoints, positive, neutral or negative so maybe it needs to be a triangle. The more we can stay on the sides that are neutral and positive the better we feel. If we feel better the actions we take are likely to be more aligned with where we want to be and more sustainable long term.

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Embracing JOMO means finding joy in prioritising things that truly matter to you, such as, your health and well-being, over fleeting moments. It's about recognising that by saying no, you are actually saying yes to something else so go find that thing, find the gift and joy in it.

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One of my lovely members has coined a phrase this past couple of weeks which I offer to you which is the concept of 'paying herself first' which I absolutely love.

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JOMO again fits perfectly with this pay yourself in joy, in health, in peace, in relaxation, in energy whatever it is you are choosing to do find a benefit, find the gift.

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Joyful Eating, Intuitive Nutrition and JOMO

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I want to turn our attention firmly now to your relationship with food.

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If you are working with me in the membership or one to one we start by awakening and gathering your awareness, it is the first A of the Triple-A-Way™️ about where you are now and where you want to be. We also work on ditching restrictive and outdated diet methods that left us feeling less than.

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That doesn't mean that thoughts stop instantly we have to actively work on them and the process.

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So, what do you think and feel about your current well-being path? Your Life? Everything in between?

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Maybe you are thinking 'it's hard', 'it sucks', maybe there is still some part of you thinks you have to feel restricted but this my friends is what creates the FOMO.

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But what if that is all a load of mind bull that you can choose to listen to.

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Mind bull based on outdated beliefs.

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So I want to encourage the members listening in the membership and all of you listening at home to take the focus away from what you might be missing out on and reframe it as an opportunity to experience the joy and satisfaction that comes from taking care of yourself.

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With the power of JOMO you can work to find pleasure and satisfaction in the foods you consume whatever they may be, rather than viewing eating as a source of guilt or restriction. You can find joy in flavours, textures, and experiences when you eat mindfully.

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Intuitive eating involves listening to our body's hunger and fullness cues, as well as honouring our cravings and preferences without judgment. It is about making empowered food choices where we can and to seek to nourish ourselves physically. and emotionally and thus in turn bringing you joy.

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So JOMO and opting out with intention is finding pleasure and satisfaction in the moment and seeking to appreciate what you have rather than focusing on what you are lacking.

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The power of JOMO means you can cultivate a sense of gratitude for the simple pleasures of life and the opportunities you do have and seek to not miss the ones you think you should have.

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It is why it could be the secret source to your well-being and 'weight loss'.

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Channelling JOMO For Weight Loss

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So how do you channel JOMO daily for 'weight loss'

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I offer you the use of my 5 D's of action method of course, it's a good solid framework that gets the job done.

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As a reminder the 5 D's are Decide, Do (able), Discover, Deal and Do again. ( GRAB THE FREE RESOURCE)

DECIDE - Make an empowered decision, take ownership of your choices and prioritise your well-being without feeling pressured to conform to old diet rules and decide because you want to. Make decisions that align with your unique values, your unique goals and desires. Decide how you want to approach the given situation. How will you channel JOMO?

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DO (able) - There is always an action step whether it is doing a physical thing, thinking etc so make sure the action is doable. If it is a small simple step it will be easy. Your JOMO step doesn't always have to be a giant frog to swallow.

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DISCOVER - Time to get curious and look at how it actually went with love. How did it feel? What thoughts came up? Did you notice any old stories or beliefs that you have to shift or was your JOMO on fire. What can you celebrate?

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DEAL - How can you deal with anything that came up? Do you need to do thought work? Reach out for coaching or Belief Coding®️, how could you find more JOMO next time?

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DO AGAIN - Rinse and repeat but make the tweaks JOMO is a practice just like others it may take some super sleuthing and that is ok. Some trial and error but that is ok. It is working on a continuous direction of travel that makes you successful in the end.

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Wrapping Up

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Right ladies, it's time to wrap this up.

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Tell me what your takeaways are. What are you going to try? When will you try them? What resources do you need to get your JOMO on?

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Be sure to pop into the Wellness 4 Women group to feedback or if you are a member in the private memberships and members grab your show resource 'Finding the Gift'.

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That's it for now... see you next week.

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